INTERVIEW WITH OLABISI ADEBIYI

MISS OLABISI ADEBIYI

 Can we meet u ma'am? 

My name is Olabisi Oluyele Adebiyi. I am a single woman in my 30’s who loves God passionately and loves life as well.

What do you do for a living?

 I am a Life Coach, A Plus Size Fashion Entrepreneur, a Management Consultant, An Overseas Education Consultant, A Sexual Purity Advocate as well.

What are your values and conviction in life? 

My values in life are basic… Love God and serve him with a clear conscience. Be good to people. Leave a great taste of your personality on the minds of those you meet. Be socially responsible. Be honorable and be a person of integrity.

 What is your background like?

 It was quite exciting to me. I grew up in a pastor’s house so I was always at some church service or special programme or event. We also had lot of people live with us growing up so there was always someone to be with. I had like a community upbringing if I may say so. The environment where I grew up was multi-cultural so I had relationships with people from different parts of the country. It was really good.

What does background and past experiences have to do with being a success in life? 

I think your background plays a significant role on how successful you are but, you determine that. You can either allow your background and past experiences to be a propeller to motivate you to become someone different and important or you can allow it to be the reason you wallow in self pity and defeat.

What is success to you?

 Success to me is influence. How much of you has impacted your generation. If anyone would ask about you 50years from now, what would be the response? Would you be remembered at all? If yes, for what? Houses, cars, land, cash or lives changed?. Success to me is to be measured when I’m gone and people’s lives are still being impacted positively by my words and deeds.

How did you discover life coaching as your divine call and purpose? 

Purpose to me is not a one-time discovery but a lifetime journey. When a child is born, the purpose at birth is to eat, sleep and grow.. when the child is older, the purpose changes to learning basic skills and communications. Fast forward a few years and the purpose for the child changes and it keeps changing even till adulthood up till the time of death. There are some things I am discovering about myself and understanding that I am meant to do that was not part of my journey 10years ago.

We want you to shed more light on what life coaching is all about? 

Life coaching is teaching and helping people to attain their goals in life or make changes in their lives. A life coach would help people think outside their sphere and see life from the outside in, then guide people into practical steps to attain the change they want. How do you manage to balance your work with ministry together ma? Well…. The truth is the Holy Spirit helps a lot. I daily learn how to juggle all my responsibilities and still be able to rest and enjoy being single… I take time to hang out with friends and family. I love eating out, so that is a great past time for me as well… but truly, the Holy Spirit teaches me what to prioritize per season and what to shelf.

With all the post you have held in the past, we believe you must be a very brilliant, hardworking and a versatile woman, so have you ever failed in the past and how did you cope ma? 

The bible says in 1John1:9 that if I confess my sins, then God is able to forgive me and cleanse me from all unrighteousness. The first thing is I go to God’s presence, he loves me,  I fail myself, people, or situations and I feel bad and unworthy but thank God because He loves me, he cleans me up and sets me back on track. I am also accountable to my parent, spiritual parents, pastors, mentors and covenant friends. So I have a support system that helps me to stay grounded and covers me, scolds me when I fail.

What word of encouragement do you have for people struggle with academics? 

 Well… I struggled with my academics until I realized that God loves me and wants me to succeed including my academics. So I studied hard but most especially, I got scriptures that I meditated on and made a confession out of them, saying them 2-3 times daily. My academics got better and I am happy for making a success story out of that… so I would encourage everyone struggling to pray. One of the scriptures I prayed was James1:5. Read …the bible says in 2Timothy2:15 that we should study to show ourselves approved. READ… get confessions of faith from God’s word that would build up your faith, study and meditate on them and make a good confession out of them. Watch, your academics would be transformed.

In this morally decayed society, what motivates you to stand for sexual purity and what challenges do you experience in your stand for sexual purity? 

My stand for purity is simple… I LOVE GOD… and when you’re in love with someone, you do all in your power to make them happy and fulfill their hearts desires. Its God’s heart desire that I stay pure and a virgin till I get married, that the final word for me. The challenge with my decision is that it makes me unpopular with what everyone else is doing. I was unable to relate with their conversations because it was centered around sex and who was sleeping with who. It helped me in the long run because it made me realize that God is more valuable to me than everyone or anything else.

People refer background, peer pressure, and exposure as excuse to prostitution and sexual immoralities, how do you go through all that without been a victim. And what's your take on this ma? 

Like I said earlier, you are the one to determine what you make of your background. Some people didn’t have anyone teach them different. Some were abused and some just blended with what was going on around them. You can decide to use your background as a reason to wallow in self pity and bad decisions or you can choose to make something good with your life. The choice is always with the individual.

 What steps would you advise to be taken in discovering purpose? 

There are basic steps I was thought and I would share them with you. To do this you need a book and some alone time
1. You need to spend time praying in the Holy Ghost and ask God to reveal to you his purpose for your life. Ask him specifically to show you the plan he has for your life. At this point you need to realize that your purpose is a journey. It is not a HUGE discovery that many people have tagged it to be. You will continually discover things about yourself in every season of your life and also what you need to do about your discovery
2. Get yourself a book. Call it a purpose book. At this point, I would ask you to get a book with an attractive cover that your interest you every time you need to write. I want you to write down in this book, everything you think you know about yourself and that other people may have made mention to you
3. With what you have written, how can you use this to benefit people?
4. How best can you develop this gift?
5. What can you do so well right now that even if you’re not paid, you will give that service for free?
Ask and answer these questions and I can assure you, you would be on the right path. 

Is there age limit in discovering purpose and living in it? 

No. there is no age limit. As long as you can think and reason, you can discover purpose.

 What advice do you have for those struggling with sexual purity? 

You need to speak with someone. Don’t be ashamed. You are not the only one struggling to live a life of purity. This does not mean you should give up but you need to ask for help. Talk to a counselor, pastor and let them help you. If you could help yourself, you would not be in this position right now.

 What encouragement do you have for those who are still sexually pure?

 Keep it up. It’s not an everlasting journey. There is an end and the end is a successful marriage. You need to be careful not to think that you can handle yourself on your Own but know that it is the Lord that gives you the desire and the ability to please him. Also seek counsel. Be accountable to someone. Don’t try to act superhuman. Talk to God about your desires and he will help you and send help to you.

How do you relax and enjoy your singleness?

I go out with friends. I love eating out… so finding new places to eat is a nice way for me to relax. I take up hobbies that make me happy and I volunteer as much as I can for good causes. I read, go to the movies or watch at home and maximize my days off.

Interviewer-  Thank you so much for the audience , time and committment.
I'm so honoured to have you here ma.
God will keep you for us. 
See you another time.