The woman and her relationship

Anchor speaks :Pastor Funmi Daniels is a branch pastor at Covenant light Church, pastoring alongside her husband. 💑, She is a Full-time minister of the gospel,🗣 a God-lover who constantly seeks after God's heart & a woman of prayer 🙏🏾 with a deep sense of pursuit of God's purpose in her generation. She believes that life is meaningless outside Christ.

Pastor Funmi Daniels is the founder of The Unveiled Woman👩🏽, an initiative that is channelled towards helping women discover their true worth & value in God. She is also the brain behind Maximising your Single hood😅, a weekly write up on social media that's focused on helping singles(male & female) 👫 to live the optimum life in God.  🤓
She is happily married to her darling husband Mr Ovie Daniels and together they reside in the city of Lagos Nigeria!
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Pastor funmi speaks: First why the fuss about relationship? Because deep within every human being is a deep desire to be the 'central focus' of an individual. Narrowing down to we ladies, we love being affirmed, loved and cared for. We are popularly referred to as fresh flower budding in the garden. We love it when a guy is all over us and dotting on us. I'm going to be as real as possible😉.

Back to my train of thought. A lady loves it when there's a guy in the picture who constantly checks up on her well-being to ensure she is doing ok. Now these emotional feelings and desires are SUPER DUPER , ok because they were put in there by God. 🙇😚
         The bible records about Isaac in Gen 24, how on beholding the beautiful damsel Rebekah, he fell in love with her. He became attracted to her on first meeting her. But the challenge was he didn't take out time first to  investigate and learn about the bakground of Rebekah cos if he had done that, he would have discovered that she has strong tendencies for deceit and trickery🤔🤔

This debunks the myth of love at first sight. You don't love at first sight but you get attracted at first sight cos attraction is mainly on physical appearance.
That a guy affirms you or shows you care isn't enough reason to start a relationship with him. You enter a relationship with * marriage in view*. This isn't what plays out in our world today. When people talk about relationship today, it's mainly about an opportunity to sleep together, make out and indulge in sexual activities. These are wrong building blocks for a successful rel.
         The social media isn't helping matters either because they portray a wrong view of what relationship should be like. You see two unmarried people cohabiting, having regular sex without marital commitment, abortion which is now the order of the day etc. And purpose youths & teenagers today spend exorbitant time on social media/tv, they begin to come up with these kind of expectations in relationships. Sex outside marriage now is fast becoming the norm. But this isn't supposed to be so!

             For those in a relationship, How much of the guy do you know? Are you in that relationship because of the 'cute face' & 'solid cash' or because you know him so well and are confident he will make a great husband in the future☺😇. You don't need to follow the crowd of people who are 'desperate' to be in a relationship because they want a guy to help them feel good about themselves. Your value isn't based on What a guy does or doesn't do.
         Your true worth/value is in Christ Jesus and Him alone. Bible says in the book of Acts that ...'in Him we live, move & have our being'. Let Christ be at the centre of your heart first so you won't be forced to join the bandwagon of ladies who don't feel good about themselves and need a guy to help them feel special. You are already special to God cos you are the Apple of His eyes - Zec 2:8.

What does the bible say about relationship? Relationship is two people working together to achieve something together. Relationship could be cordial or marital but for the purpose of emphasis, I will narrow down strictly to Marital relationship.
Amos 3:3 - 'Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?. Agreement here refers to spiritual, mental and psychological agreement. Is the person you are in a relationship with on the same spiritual plain as you? Is he Born again and tongue talking? Does he uphold Christian values and live by them? You need an affirmative YES to these questions before considering any guy for a relationship. Also you need to be sure that entering the relationship or being in One is not to join the convoy of ladies dating men they have no business being with.

Dating isn't scriptural and personally I don't condone it. Dating doesn't have marriage in view and opens the door for all sorts of atrocities. Any relationship without marriage in view shouldn't even be entered into. If there is a guy that you like or likes you, start as friends

(develop strong friendship) and watch to be sure you he feels the same way about you. Friendship gives you the opportunity to observe him and see if he is a kind of man you want to get married to. This is very important.
So back to the issue of agreement. Spiritual agreement is very key cos in marriage, the man is supposed to be the priest and prophet of the home. As a priest he goes before God on behalf of his home to petition God on matters and as a prophet, he receives Words/prophetic insights & catches a vision for the union from God. This is key sisters....I can't stress it enough!

That is why the bible says in 2Cor 6:14 - "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship(agreement) has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?". Light and darkness have no agreement together cos they are operating on separate planes. As a child of God you are on a New Dimension which means you can't be in a relationship with a guy that isn't Born again. Such a guy can't be the priest & prophet of his home. You need to watch out for this before venturing into any relationship.

On the aspect of mental and psychological agreement, you need to be in a relationship with someone you can relate with. It is religion that makes us believe you can be in courtship or marry someone lower than you mentally and psychologically. Since I've established the fact that relationship is all about agreement, you need to keep that in view and sincerely ask yourself these questions.

Can this guy give me right counsels? Is he able to mentally make qualitative decisions that will profit the union? Can he instruct his kids to grow in the way of the Lord? Can he stand before people with confidence to express himself in any way?. This isn't about money but about ability to be a MAN. A lot of ladies have ignored this in time past and they paid darely for it.  Don't follow the flock😉.

Having said all, I want to close by saying-  being in a relationship isn't a do or die affair. FOCUS on being the kind of lady great, anointed and spiritual men will chase after. Don't be desperate to be in a relationship and then forcefully settle for less. Have solid values you live by and *uphold* them. As a Christian you have no business being in a relationship with a guy that drinks, smokes, clubs, womanizes etc. SET HIGH STANDARDS by the word and live by them. I tell you that all these will be the perfect attraction for your Mr Right😊😀😉😁.